The little things that people do for others are often taken for granted until they are no longer there to do them for you. It could be as simple as changing the cat litter and taking the trash out or as complicated as making it possible for you to survive emotionally, physically or financially. What would you do if you woke up in the morning to discover the one you had taken for granted was no longer there to take care of everything for you?
Examining yourself is difficult; admitting that you are dependent on someone else is extremely difficult. The realization that you have been taking someone for granted is a tough pill to swallow. Responsibility is something that everyone should take for themselves. With the exception of your mother, there is not a person on this planet that is likely to be willing to take responsibility for you and your needs, should you find the rare person that gives you all you need without taking, it is up to you to ensure you are properly appreciative and doing your part to prevent burning them out.
Everyone has things they have to do. The amount of things on the list will vary, but there are things neglected when someone has to do everything for someone else. A simple “thank you” is not too much to ask, but sometimes it is inadequate. More inadequate is complaining when results were not what you desired while someone else did everything for you. Ungrateful does not begin to describe what this behavior makes you.
Adults, given no physical limitations, or mental deficit, should be able to perform the tasks necessary to take care of themselves. The ability to take responsibility for successes and failures should be had as well. We can lay blame all day. While there may have been circumstances and interference beyond our control, in the end, it is up to each of us individually to make our own decisions and live with the choices that we have made. While factors affect those choices, often we forget that we have the option to walk away from those who would drag us down, and show true appreciation to those who make our lives easier just by being in them.