When one loses function of a limb, even for a brief time, and the use returns, it is alien. The same can be said of organs.
As difficult as it may be to fathom, we all at some point have lost the use of a part of ourselves. The tiniest version is the foot which goes to sleep after having it curled beneath us watching our favorite movie or the hand snaked under and cradling a napping head.
At the other end of the spectrum are the heart and mind. We joke about losing our minds. As alluring as that topic may be, today’s focus is on a different organ: heart.
When thinking about losing something, we have to put a value on it first.
- How much do we use it?
- How much does it define us?
- How often does it make our jobs easier?
- Does it complicate otherwise easy matters?
- Can we function without it?
For the grinch, losing heart is not much of a loss. Grinches invest little heart in anything. They do not bleed into their endeavors.
For the big-hearted, losing heart is similar to becoming quadriplegic… underwater. Big-hearted people bleed life force into everything they touch.
They are not as easily lumped together as Grinches. Not all of them are Type-A personalities. Some of them are meek. Many are weak. A few are silent forces unknown to the majority of the people they affect. They drop the pebbles into the smooth surface of water creating the ripples which move every water molecule in the lake.
Imagine for a moment their hand paralyzed, unable to drop the stone; instead, the hand trapped beneath the rock. For all the desire in the heart, knowing dropping it is the right thing to do, the heart cannot will the rock off the hand.
As time moves on, the hand goes to sleep and refuses to help the heart in its desire. The mind justifies why the rock is better off where it is. This is not a cruel argument, rather it is one of kindness. The mind does not stand in judgment of the heart’s desire. It reasons why the rock remains to save the heart from feeling foolhardy in wanting to drop the immovable stone.
The heart is never convinced. It knows the rock needs to get into the water, regardless of how immutably the stone persists. The heart grows weary because while it nods in acquiescence the mind’s reasoning is sound, it silently wills the rock to move.
weary: exhausted in strength, endurance, vigor or freshness; having one’s patience, tolerance or pleasure exhausted
How long can the heart lose the argument before its endurance is exhausted? In the face of the rock’s permanence, the heart seeks out another rock. Mayhap, a smaller stone will have enough impact to affect change.
The mind cajoles with the same arguments from the last rock in the hope the heart will abandon rock-throwing altogether. The heart persists with a rock covered in muck which makes it stick to the hand. Now, both hands are unable to drop the stone of change.
Another form of weariness sets in:
bored or annoyed by something because you have seen it, heard it, done it, etc., many times or for a long time
If only the heart could get a toe under another stone, a kicked rock would have a similar effect to one dropped with precision. The stones at the feet are large and heavy. With the hands pinned down, balance is skewed. The mind refuses to send the impulse to the foot to kick the rock because it knows the body would fall even if the toes were not broken in the effort.
The heart again acknowledges the mind’s sound reasoning. After all, what good would affecting change be if the body must be sacrificed to do it?
Dear M3 Readers,
This is the beginning of a series which has been painful to write. Over the course of the next few posts, we will expand this concept into a much larger arena.
Thank you for your constant support and encouragement. They mean a great deal to me.
Quietly,
Do you believe some change is worth personal sacrifice?
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Prenin
/ August 28, 2014Nothing is more certain than change. 🙂
Love and huge hugs! 🙂
Prenin.
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Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014Very true, Pren. 😉
Carl D'Agostino
/ August 28, 2014Hadda cardiac “event” 4 weeks ago, hospitalized only two days and stabilized. Had triple by pass 2006 so cardiologist on my payroll for ever. Finished 43 radiation treatment early stage prostate cancer last Thursday. I just go about my normal routines as best I can one day at a time. Hey at 65 now I will be dealing with this kind of nonsense all the time. So the change is I’m not 40 years old anymore.
Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014LOL I hear that, Carl. Glad you stopped by today. Gratz on the end of your radiation. I do wish for it to truly be the end of your treatments.
cat
/ August 28, 2014I am definitely a Type A person … and I like it …
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Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014Me, too. *giggles*
Gray Dawster
/ September 1, 2014I knew that 😉 lol
Andro xxxx
gigoid
/ August 28, 2014Red….
I get the impression that this one is a bit more personal than some of yours, and, extrapolating from that, hope that what comes next hasn’t troubled you overmuch… but, it sounds as if it has, so, whatever it is, you DO have my empathy & support… I have felt each word of your thoughts here today, which is why I say that…
On a lighter note, how’s the weather there?
😉
Oh, and remember, I’m pretty sure we’re all bozos on this bus, so, honk on, & I’ll honk along….
Take care, milady….
gigoid
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P.S Phew! Almost forgot to check the spambot box!….
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Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014Aye, I do have a magnificent amount of empathy and support. What has troubled me is both mine and that which belongs to others. This was borne of case files which still break my heart to read and remember.
The weather is gorgeous about 20 hours per day. 🙂 Glad to see you, Gigs. xxx
RLB Hartmann
/ August 28, 2014The older we get, the more we must embrace change, in ourselves and in others. Having a spiritual outlook gives us a place to retreat to, a time of refreshment. It’s my lifeline.
Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014Another part of this series will resonate with you. That lifeline is tied directly to your heart. xxx
Binky
/ August 28, 2014Getting older and suffering from more health-related issues is something none of us can avoid forever. Some have to endure much more than others.
Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014True. When I look at how much some survive, I realize how unevenly it is distributed.
RLB Hartmann
/ August 30, 2014Watching family and friends experience horrendous personal and health problems is extremely painful. I am blessed never to have had any major issues, other than the loss of loved ones.
Red of M3
/ August 30, 2014In its own way, loss of loved ones is a trial which can be as painful as what we consider “personal loss”. Frankly, I cannot consider losing someone I love as anything except a personal loss. Glad to see you today, Lucie.
Valentine Logar
/ August 29, 2014The heart and the mind do not always operate in concert, after many years most of us know this to be the best and greatest truism of all. The heart wants what it wants. The mind, more frequently than not considers pragmatically the options and finds fault.
What to do? Do what hurts the least and preserves the most for all involved.
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Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014You see where this series is leading already, my sister. xxx
Tess
/ August 29, 2014Depends what the change called for is about. What is it’s value, benefit and to whom? As well, it may depend why I am / would be involved.
Just because the mind knows what is best, the heart doesn’t always agree and vice versa. It a touch call.
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Red of M3
/ August 29, 2014My guess from your answer is a reserved and qualified yes. I have to say I agree. You also have touched a part of where this series is headed.
Gray Dawster
/ September 1, 2014As time moves forward change is a very big part in all of our lives, sometimes we may feel distanced from others around us, perhaps thinking that we are the only one to venture into the unknown, but changes are all around us.
All that we can do is the best that we can, and not worry so much, time is relentless, it has many changes to overcome, the best way is always looking ahead with a smile, even when smiling is not something that is in mind, but needed to fulfil one’s own destiny.
Positivity and optimism is always the best way forwards, and as for changes, well those happen to everyone 🙂
Have a lovely Monday Red 😉
Andro xxxx
Red of M3
/ September 1, 2014Aye. My restlessness is not for the old; instead, it is the desire to be a catalyst. xxxx Happy Labor Day, Andro.