Last week’s poll asked you:
Do you tell your friends “I love you”?”
- Yes, all the time 27%
- Yes, occasionally 45%
- No, not often 9%
- No, never 18%
When the poll began, the no crowd was evenly split between not often and never. It was not until Sunday the never’s came to the polls. When I did this survey in person, I was interested in the answers I would get for…can you guess?…
The most common answers I got for why people do not tell their friends they love them were (in no particular order):
- Thought friends would think they were weird
- Afraid friends would think they were homosexual
- Did not feel comfortable
- Don’t say it to parents, so would never think to tell friends
- Don’t say I love you to anyone
The last answer saddened me more than all the rest…put together.
I love everybody!
The next largest crowd were the all-the-time lovers. More than a quarter of the people surveyed here (which was more than in person) said they tell their friends they love them all the time.
Most people said they wanted their friends to always know they loved them. So, naturally, I asked another question, which is why I love in person surveys. (Idly wonders if she was a telemarketer in a past life…OMG! Don’t even think that!)
Do they say it back?
Apparently, all-the-timers are friends with one another. Every single one of them answered, “Yes.” Some followed it with “Duh,” while others were kinder to the crazy lady with the clipboard and just looked at me as though I had broccoli in my teeth.
Every So Often
The vast majority in person and nearly half on the poll said they tell their friends I love you occasionally. I have to account for the large group because I designed the question poorly. I followed up with How often is occasionally?
- Every couple of visits
- Once a week
- When I remember
- Only when I am drunk
- A few times a year, like on holidays
Note to self:
Make questions more specific. Specificity is the rule.
Have you taken the new poll? What would make you say I love you to your friends? If an all-the-timer told you, would you say it back?