Despite a million odds in my favor, I have problems. Admittedly, first world problems, but one in particular spans the economic and status planes to be just human.
Not to put to fine a point on it, I have a problem with acceptance. (Nearly) everyone wants to wash my dirty laundry and fold me into someone who they believe I should be, could be or they want me to be. Having done my time in a dry cleaner, I am not allergic to the fluid, yet still my skin wants to crawl with all the improvements others feel are necessary.
3. Go out.
My social calendar is sparse. This is not something I do intentionally, yet it is common. While I have no problem putting together successful galas and festivals, I am the Mary Tyler Moore of dinner parties. I consider it strange as I am often asked to cook at the dinner parties at others’ homes. (Not weird because I am a really good cook.) Excuse?
It is so far to your house.”
As close as I come to speechlessness is the quiet while I count to ten.
Somehow, you have figured out my wormhole is only one way.”
What you are really saying is there is not enough (enjoyment, fellowship, camaraderie) to justify the whole ten miles.
No matter how much I want to move away from South Carolina, I am not going to move within South Carolina to cut someone else’s drive time. I moved here full well knowing I had a 30+ mile commute to civilization regardless of the direction I chose to drive.
2. You would not have liked it.
Assumption. The logic behind this statement is equally inane:
Because I have never seen you do it or heard you talk about it, you cannot possibly be interested in it.”
Unlike Carpenter, I am a scathing social commentary.
Fact: You have spent fewer than 25 hours in my presence. I spent more than 15 of them listening to you. Although your life story is less than a miniseries, mine is far more like Halloween. You cannot marathon my life in eight hours. Frankly, conversation has not had time to organically sprout to bring up more than an eighth of what I have done.
You like M, so there is no way you would like R.”
I have taste other than what is in my mouth. The single most common descriptor for me is eclectic (followed closely by eccentric). I am a firm believer in try everything at least twice… I may screw it up the first time.
You have already done it.”
Did I say I hated it? I think not. Did I tell you I would never do it again? Did I tell you I was physically unable? Despite a palette of disabilities, I am really capable. I can sit in a dinner party even without a nap.
1. But you said…
It is most commonly called the truth. My habit of speaking it is not:
- An attack
- Rumor mongering
- Out of line
If you do not like the truth coming out of my mouth, change it. I do not make the news, just report it; however, I am not the villain because I have told Emperor You public nudity is against local ordinances. If your conscience brings out a pickax and a hammer when anyone mentions said truth, make an appointment with a life coach or a therapist. (My rates are really reasonable.)
I am a horse.
Assuming facts about me are easily discernible or I have diarrhea of the mouth and tell everything I (know, want, like, have done) or asking me about myself will lead to the diatribes to which I am often subjected is merely making an ass out of you. I am a horse.
Rant over. For now.
What makes us assume our life choices are right for others? Why do we choose to shy from uncomfortable truths rather than change them?
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Laurie
/ June 28, 2013People think my house is too far out, and for the only ones I actually like it is with the outrageous price of gas. The people I don’t like I had to ban, they kept popping up uninvited and unwelcome. I’m considering moving out into the middle of a forest surrounded by bears, and little woodland creatures.
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Binky
/ June 28, 2013That sounds like a place where I’d like to live.
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Red
/ July 11, 2013I think we need to move the chocolate cabin there.
Red
/ July 11, 2013We have plenty of bears and the deer like to eat my flowers. Fortunately, Cash likes the taste of gopher. I just wish she did not like to roll in the leftovers. o.O
El Guapo
/ June 28, 2013Who said we don’t like truth?
Even if nothing is done to alter those truths, it’s still good to now them.
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Red
/ July 11, 2013I think we all need the truth delivered with far more regularity.
tess kann
/ June 28, 2013I know about being pushed around by someone’s erroneous expectations–with great pressure at times. These days, I have no problem crossing my arms and repeating, “No,” a couple of times before I disappear. When I was much younger, I couldn’t please everyone, but I tried. THAT game is over now.
You are a pillar, Red. I’m at a loss why there is no shortage of people who think they know what is good for you better than you do.
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Red
/ July 11, 2013I would like most of them to move to the endangered species list. I have never been a people pleaser, so I have a hard time with gripping the underlying motivation for it for longer than to realize I never want it in my life. xxx
Stacy
/ June 28, 2013After reading this, I tend to believe that you don’t really have a problem. (They do.) <3
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Red
/ July 11, 2013LOL! Glad I am not the only one! Great to see you, Stacy. xxx
John McDevitt
/ June 28, 2013The expectations people have for others are myopic. No person lives to please another, but we do forget and impose our world view on others. I try not to do that.
It’s easier to pretend. But not facing uncomfortable truths stalls living.
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Red
/ July 11, 2013Agreed. I told Guapo I believe we all need far more truth. I believe it helps quell the desire to interject our own expectations on others. As an aside, I believe you are successful in your attempt. Thank you for stopping by, John.
Prenin
/ June 28, 2013I never decide on anyone’s choices – I don’t have to live with them so why try and change somebody else???
Uncomfortable truths have sometimes to be accepted because changing them is damaging to our lives.
My God daughter’s family sold me out repeatedly, yet I still love them despite the hurt.
So: I forgive them and wait for the next money spinning set-up… 🙁
Love and hugs!
Prenin.
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Red
/ July 11, 2013Prenin, doing the same thing repeatedly expecting a different result is insanity. The uncomfortable truth is not something which is damaging to our lives. The uncomfortable truth shatters the delusion all is well.
Binky
/ June 28, 2013Is there any other way to be than an eclectic eccentric?
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Red
/ July 11, 2013It is the way I am most comfortable with it.
Penny
/ June 29, 2013Red, other peoples erroneous ideas make for gnashing of ones teeth, but all you get is tension round the jaw. just be you and take the higher ground, understand with a faint smile of pity? um, insouciance? (Wow, I am totally surprised at myself, that word, it fits so well, but how did I know it? ) anywho, you’re lovely and they’re asses!! xPenx
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Red
/ July 11, 2013<3 Thank you, Penny. Great word. I am staying a horse for good measure. Thank you for stopping by! xxx
Deb
/ June 29, 2013The first time I read someone trying to tell you what to do I will be LMAO. Why you may ask? Because they obviously don’t know you.
I wonder to who might set them on fire.
Love ya, Red!
xxx
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Red
/ July 11, 2013It is so nice to be in the company of so many arsonists. <3 xxx
Valentine Logar
/ June 29, 2013Who said I don’t love you?
I would visit every 3rd day, if I lived in the third circle of hell. If I visited more often people would talk. Every fourth day you could visit me.
I suspect the need to ask and tell comes from our need to be in charge. Just a thought.
<3
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Red
/ July 11, 2013Bwahahaha! We visit not nearly so much, and ppl already talk. ROFLMAO! Charge-schmarge. I have enough to do not to want to worry with wrecking someone else’s life. <3 xxx