Romeo or Don Juan?


You have been asked this before: Who are you? Before you run off at the head telling me your pedigree, there is a specific you I want to know. What is your romantic identity? Hmm. Think about it.


Since it is Valentine’s Day, we are looking at the fifth (no, not the first…the fifth) definition of romantic:

  • a : having an inclination for romance : responsive to the appeal of what is idealized, heroic, or adventurous
  • b : marked by expressions of love or affection
  • c : conducive to or suitable for lovemaking

Have you ever considered what you romantic identity is? So, What goes into the romantic identity? is probably a question we need to answer before we discover what your personal romantic identity is.

And before you panic…You do not have to answer each question individually. Think about your answers to the questions along the way until we get to the end.



What part of you do you consider perfect? What characteristic makes you the perfect Valentine? What part of your Valentine is perfect?


What heroic measure would show your Valentine you love him/her? Would you do something daring to prove your love? …or interest? …or desire?


What is your idea of Valentine’s Day fun? And not the tried and true: Dinner, show and nooky. Embrace your inner adventurer. What constitutes a Valentine adventure?

Expressions of Love & Affection

Let’s look at the laundry list:

  • Flowers
  • Chocolates
  • Cards
  • Stuffed animals
  • Promises you do not intend to keep

Are these your expressions of Valentine’s Day love and affection? Or do you have some truly romantic ideas? What makes your Valentine know s/he is the most special one on the face of the Earth?


Are you sexy? Is Valentine sexy? (And before any heckler in the audience gets started…Yes, my sister is. I mean your Valentine.) Are you going to set the mood or is Valentine going to seduce you? Or are you the kind of Valentine who just expects some for Valentine’s Day?

Building a Profile

I know I am qualified as a Valentine. The part of me which is perfect? My sarcastic humor. What part of my Valentine is perfect? You will have to wait for another post to learn that secret…or ten.

As a matter of fact, there is quite a bit of my profile which will be revealed in another post, so I am not going to spoil the fun merely because I wrote the posts out of order. You see, I wrote the next two posts more than a week ago. (Pens Valentine-themed thank you email to the scheduler.)

For the last segment, as long as Bear thinks I am sexy, all is good. I do not expect. It makes the surprise that much sweeter.

Your Turn

What is your romantic identity? Would your Valentine endorse your version of your romantic identity? Does it extend beyond Valentine’s Day? Or are you a one-hit-wonder?

Tell me the funniest or most adventurous Valentine’s Day you have had. What is the most creative gift you have given or received for Valentine’s Day? Which couple are you?

  • Romeo and Juliet
  • Bonnie and Clyde
  • Lancelot and Guinevere
  • Spencer and Audrey
  • Aphrodite and Adonis
  • Anthony and Cleopatra
  • Tarzan and Jane


Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine's Day

PS There will be no dissection of Valentine’s Day on M3 today…Maybe, next year. Today is completely about fun, affection, friends, lovers and celebrations.

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  1. I don’t think my girl and I fit into any of the couples above. Maybe Babs and Buster Bunny?
    The only main difference for us on Valentine’s Day as opposed to the rest of the year is we give each other cards, possibly a small gift. We are very expressive (holding hands, kissing, I Love You-ing…) every day of the rest of the year.
    We’re year round saps with occasionally wicked senses of humor.

    • There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I happen to think it is very sweet. *giggles* Babs and Buster… *giggles again*

  2. Pedigree – mutt, woof

    Well spit – have been heckling all the way down this one, okay I will stop now and answer with some seriousness.

    First things first – Lady and the Tramp blended with Tracy & Hepburn

    I am not a good Valentine, not terribly romantic at all. Would rather have the gift of housework than sillyazzed cards, flowers or other such. Don’t get me wrong though I can be bribed with sparkly jewelry (I may not be a cheap date but I know my worth).

    My identity certainly extends to all the days of the year, much to my poor husbands dismay. He is far more romantic a personality than I, bless him for that for without his streak of romanticism we would likely not be married all these years.

    Happy Hallmark Day!

    • Happy VD, sis! *giggles* Squeeze BIL for me…but do not tell him it is from me 🙂

  3. I like celebrating affection with friends and family, it’s fun! (as per your PS…)

  4. bear

     /  February 14, 2012

    Me Tarzan You JAAAAAAAANNNNNNNEEEEE. Wooo Weee did I say it loud enough? How about Abbott and Costello? That’s way too funny.

  5. Tarzan and Jane.

  6. My husband and I definately do not fit any of the couples in your list. I’m not sure we didn’t make our own item on the list! I would have to think hard about my romantic identity. Do I even have one now-a-days? Probably the funniest valentines — My husband turns to me as we arrive home after a romantic dinner and opens up the glove box. He pulls out a flashlight, turns it on and sings, “You light up my life”. Let’s just say it was my most unique gift 🙂

    • Oh, that is delightful! And of course you should have a romantic identity! Everyone needs one for Mate. Hope you like tonight’s poem!

  7. John Lennon and Yoko Ono …

    Romantic identity? Interesting you should ask that as my daughter has recently done some articles on love from a psychological standpoint. I have no idea what mine is. I am in the process of re-building mine and realized I have never had a truly successful relationship before. When I find out, I’ll let you know, but one thing is for sure: It’s not what I thought it was.

    • That is the most common answer. Self-discovery is a strange and wonderful place. Happy Hallmark Day, Alex!

  8. Thanks, same to you, although it’s over now. In my timezone anyway.

  9. Mutt or Jeff. Whomever is the short one.

    What a hoot.

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