One of the questions I dreaded the most when I was pregnant, especially with the last three, was “What are you having?”
Being of ornery nature, my answer was always an upbeat, bright:
Puppies, if I am lucky!”
I am decorating in yellow.
Many of the benefits of knowing the sex of your child before its birth are intangible, yet very valuable. They go much deeper than saving the money wasted on decorating a room or buying a wardrobe in a socially unacceptable color. (My sons wore pink pajamas. Sue me.)
The last trimester is plagued with little or no sleep. Obstetricians advise: If you speak and/or sing to your baby in-utero at the appointed hour, it builds a soothing bond which encourages your newborn to sleep longer, sooner and by the sound of your voice at bedtime.
If you know the sex of your child, you can call her by her name. How surprised will your pediatrician be when your 4-month-old acknowledges the calling of his name?
Knowing the sex of your child before its birth is an emotional benefit to the children. Older siblings can better understand the concept of little brother or sister than they do “the new baby”.
Letting the fetus have its identity early can prevent the onset of jealousy over the older child no longer being the baby. Allowing the older siblings to help set up the nursery better defines the Big Brother or Big Sister role. This nurturing instinct is the basis for a stronger sibling relationship.
Get Over It
If you are the parent who wants a particular sex of child, knowing the sex before birth will ease your anxiety. Since sex can be determined before the half-way point, parents can have ample time for counseling toward their apprehensions about their child, be they the sex or otherwise.
This has the marked benefit for the child: Being born to well-adjusted parents, who are happy to finally have their bundle of joy.
Did you find out the sex of your baby before it was born? Why or why not?