Fasten Your Seat Belts

A 5-Point harness.

Buckle up. It

Those who have been on board for a while know it is not my style to go on an all-out rant. I generally temper my rants with either humor or knowledge which I feel has some import. If you are seeking the smooth roller coaster ride normally associated with M3, please fasten your harness tighter, for this will not be one such ride.

The Ascent

I have been steady supplying a stream of (at least I think it is) important information regarding the simple pitfalls of relationships, the common cracks in the pavement which trip the average Mate and cautionary or restorative advice in the ways to avoid or repair relationship damage.

We have discussed the foundation: Friendship. We have discussed the mechanics: Honesty, for one. We have discussed the ceremony: Wedding. We are beginning the full Monte: Marriage.

Bumping up to the top.

The Jerks in the Chain

Never once in my wildest dreams did I honestly believe everyone who stopped in for a cuppa and a comment would endorse my ideas. In real life, I cannot get any random two of my Quaints out of a group to agree anything I say is worthwhile, much less applicable. So, I came to this blog, with its heady topics, eyes wide open.

The Curve at the Top

I admit: I have fed the bears. And no, I am not talking about my Bear and the cubs. I am talking about the people who continue to bash me in comments and in my inbox and on their own blogs. Why is this the curve at the top? You have no concept of what is to come, so this is the smooth part of the ride where your anticipation builds expecting something fun.

Going down.

The First Plunge

I have never made any secret of the fact I have been married more than once or that I have been divorced. From said marriages, I learned much of what I impart-both from the standpoint of what to and what not to do. From classes, doctors, therapists, study and programs, like Refuse to Be a Victim, I have learned more about how abusive things happen, continue and re-happen.

From witnessing more than one 50+ year marriage (and one three months shy of 60), I learned the pieces necessary for longevity. From proctoring divorces in real time, I have seen the devastating effects on all parties.

Quick to the Top

From assorted religious establishments, I have learned life with a higher power can be a relief from much of the strife of everyday mundanity. From my children, I have learned the benefits of patience. From the idiots who reside within a 500 mile radius of me regardless of my location, I have learned tolerance.

From learning to say “No”, I have gained a peace in my life which allows me the freedom to love without reservation.

The Second Plunge

My tolerance and patience with those outside my direct social circle (read me and mine) is completely exhausted. No, I am not emotionally bankrupt: I have overdraft protection. I am, however, certain there will be far less mollycoddling of those who choose to spew unsupported innuendo, rumors, mythology and outright lies.

Round and round and round.

A Spiral

I am not particularly adroit at circular logic. Do not ask me about chickens and eggs. Existential reasoning, quantum mechanics, linear time, physics, statistics, genetics, biology, calculus, chemistry… we can have a grand conversation. Do not ask me to forgo the simple principles to accept your opinion which has no basis in fact or reality.

Do not send me an (engraved) invitation to your delusion. My travel agent does not endorse that destination.


I hope you have kept your hands and arms inside the ride. If you have not, triage for bloody limbs is hosted on another blog more tolerant of those who refuse to act in their own best interest. Additionally, triage for hurt feelings has been closed due to lack of emotional capital.

After the ride, you may be a little disoriented. Please watch your step. The platform is slippery.

© Red Dwyer 2012
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  1. Read and understood Red.

    Hope things improve – can we block people on this thing???

    Love ya!


    • I wish. Some days, I really wish.

      It will turn out fine. I am certain.

      {HUGZ} Red.

  2. Great post, The thing about other people’s opinions is that they are other people’s opinions, and they don’t really matter, unless they happen to be your mentor, your lover, your family or your teacher. When a stranger has something to say, they usually are barking up their own tree and taking it out on someone else.

    • As someone who has always lived in a glass house, I am not one to juggle. Some days, I need to go outside and toss a few boulders to maintain perspective. I am not perfect, nor would I be asinine enough to claim it.

      My fear is the entire premise will be lost on the ones it was intended to inform.

  3. “And the Lord spake, saying, “First shalt thou take out the Holy Pin. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. Once the number three, being the third number, be reached, then lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in my sight, shall snuff it.”

    Or you might go for a ride on your lovely dragon Red. Feel the wind in your hair and roast a few idiots.


    • Oh, McD, I sooooooooooooo needed that. *Still giggling*

      My roller coaster car has a fire-breathing head. *Giggles again*


    • Nice to see a fellow Monty python fan!!! 🙂

      God Bless! 🙂


      • You are in very good company there, my fine friend 😉 Lots of my friends are Flying Circus graduates. {HUGZ} Red.

  4. While not everyone will ever agree on every point, I think it is important to speak one’s mind. Your blog is helpful. If someone chooses not to follow your tips, so be it. I say listen to the crowds, and the majority is roaring with support for you Red.

    • I do hear you, Christy. Every once in a while I have to let the naysayers know I am going to continue despite their abuse. Red.

  5. You had better KEEP bloggin or I’m outta here -grin-. Fuck the bumpy night

    • They will need to start hurling more than incoherent, badly spelt, ignorance-revealing email at me before I throw in the towel. How many times have I heard hate mail is the proof I am hitting the mark? Red.

  6. I am surprised you let them get to you. Use that higher power that fuels your love and relationship with those in your inner circle to ignore the rubbish. Delete and move on.

    Then again, while I can ignore others negativity, I can’t get a relationship together. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could give each other what we need?

    • I would gladly share with you, Alex. I have deleted the majority of them, for they are nothing but indicative of my message hitting home. Red.

  7. Sorry Red, couldn’t ride this one. Kiddie coasters make me sick. If I can help, let me know. Love You, Grant

    • You could take lessons from Little V, who, if left to her own devices, would ride the biggest, fastest, tallest, scariest ones all day long. And Little Bear loves them more when they are in the dark. Red.

  8. bear

     /  January 5, 2012

    Wow, good thing I’m in the inner cicle. Quite frankly I read someone’s comment and yawned because it’s so much crap. It is what it is…crap

  9. Yikes! Loved it Ann Marie 😀 I can just see you, fists flailing, trying to get at those buggers who keep crossing the line, Bears hand on your forhead trying to hold you back lol. Very well said and appreciated.

  10. Those loons that add nonsense to a posting whether it is directly on the blog, or covertly via e mail as they conveniently hide behind their monitors should know one thing, if they do not like what is written on a Space then it is rather effortless NOT to revisit that Space.

    I mean they don’t have to read what is written on any given blog do they? These mindless gutter snipes are a waste of Space, they add vileness and foolishness, indeed they are the dregs of our networking community. Just monotonous yobs without anything between their ears, empty craniums with sh…

    I mean mush for brains and an unparalleled juvenile approach to blogging. They must have incredibly boring lives too, bloody morons…

    Sticks and Stones Red…

    Androgoth XXx

    • I am hoping the worthless shall be further between, but I haven’t bothered to check the box today. I rather enjoyed my IRL day with very little cyber interaction. I am sooo looking forward to my days of unplugged bliss 😉 Red.

      • That sounds truly exquisite 🙂 😉

        Just peaceful times and…
        Well anything that you like I guess? 🙂

        Have Lots of Fun Red 🙂

        Androgoth XXx


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