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    Red Dwyer’s Killing us Softly is a monumental book of heartfelt and practical advice for getting through and surviving the onslaught of cancer and death of a spouse.
    With the use of real time journal entries and blog posts, the author reaches out to readers in a unique way to guide them through all the emotions, responsibilities, and processes of being the caretaker of a marriage partner.
    Self-care and the care of the children are her primary focus, as she becomes the sole head of household and cup of love for her dying spouse and surviving family of nine children, three of whom are autistic.
    The book is supremely well-balanced in a way that has never been offered to the public before. The journal entries and blog posts draw us into her intimate life as she grieves privately yet exhibits her strength throughout and beyond the dying process. The focus is on helping the reader maneuver through the seemingly herculean feats of love and physical care which are assigned to the surviving spouse once the diagnosis of cancer is definite.
    From discussion on diagnosis and decisions to be made, through treatment and endgame, Red Dwyer holds our hand and shares with us her advice for not only surviving but also claiming our lives as we traverse this difficult and often hidden journey. She discusses the role of spirituality in the lives of the caretaking spouses, and the details of cancer treatment as a partner in the comfort of her loved one.
    Almost all of us are faced with treatment options at end of life, and many of us don’t face them until we are feeble and sick and not entirely in a place to make those decisions. While cancer has specific decisions to be made, Dwyer discusses the choices we all make when faced with extended treatment of a terminal illness or allowing nature to take its course.
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For those of you who have occasion to know why this song is fitting for me, you should get a giggle. No sense looking at the screen, there is not a video attached. Merely listen to the music as you read. It sets the mood…perfectly.


The pelting grows
softer, but only for
the moment.
It is the calm in
between the

First came the flurry
of crackling
Then ravenous
thunder peals

The rivulets stream steadily
smooth from the
eave’s edge.
Freckles dot the view
through inky

They are all to be seen since
the Cheshire moon
went and hid.
Bullied by roiling
clouds and

Despite hundreds of thousands
of miles in between
The sky simply
is not big


 I hope you have had a pleasant and restful weekend.

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  1. I love it. I love storms and the music is a great background for this.


    P.S. No I’m not a spammer, spambot or spam spinner. Yes okay I’ll check the box. LOL
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  2. Well that was electrifying….thanks Red
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  3. Laurie

     /  June 4, 2012

    there was more past him?? ……he fits it well…….

  4. I like this one a lot Red and yes a nice weekend, of course it could have been a lot better but that’s life I guess :)

    Be good now :)
    Noooo strike that,
    be wicked and a
    tad naughty ;)

    Androgoth XXx

  5. Que the tumbling tumble weed!
    Here’s hoping your week is a bit more relaxed!
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  6. But space is! And no lightning in space to worry about, either.
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    • Red

       /  June 4, 2012

      ROFL! Have to tell the Moon to move a tad further away.

  7. So far so good hun! :)

    Loved the old Spaghetti Westerns – I used to watch them with my grandparents at their farm!!! :)

    Love and hugs!

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    • Red

       /  June 5, 2012

      I did not fall into spaghetti westerns until most of the character actors were dead. It brings be to a different time, which I have had the chance to partake in dribs and drabs. They all remind me of my great grandparents’ farm. The countryside could have been the set of any of those movies. {HUGZ} Red.

  8. That song plays in my head when I say something in my house and the “other” says: “Really?”
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    • Red

       /  June 13, 2012

      ROFL! It is my ringback tone. I find it soothing and fitting.


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