Our lives are often quantified by the number and size of our circles. The nuclear family is our first circle. Our corporate and social circles expand in our youth and contract as we age.
Coins stashed for retirement or merely to be amassed treasure are stacked into cylinders. We even count the circles under our eyes. What about the life seen through the smallest circles?
Children look at the world without cynicism. They decry the things and people before them in terms not jaded by experience or heartache. They call a spade a spade and care not a wit adults would be offended by such declarations.
Many of us would give up money and possessions to return to an age where we were free of the battle scars of both the school of hard knocks and the university of life. Others of us would never go back for love nor money. Both camps will agree to the trip with the caveat If I knew then what I know now…
Innocence
In their innocence, children propose the simplest solutions to conundrums adults are unable to ravel. For instance, the child of the widow asks when the new suitor will take her last name. The logic is so simple. The family is the widow and the child. Acceptance of the beau means he joins them, not the other way around, as the society sees it. A simple matter of majority rule.
This alleged unsophisticated way of approaching issues is far more commonplace than one may first imagine. As adults, we often succumb to the overly complicated as a rite of passage, rather than eschewing the complexity in favor of the logical solution.
Brevity
Children will often stop listening to the instructions, particularly the exceptions which follow. To their minds, the important matters come first. All the silly fine print designed to ward away danger could not possibly be of consequence; otherwise, why would the print be so small and appended as an afterthought to the primary text?
In our adult efforts to boil everything down to a concentrated elixir, we forego the important steps of safety and well-being. In our arrogance, we assume such provisions should be accepted without nomination.
Thorough
Children will try an adult’s patience with a litany of a single word: Why? As the diminutive vessel stands waiting to be filled with knowledge, the adult realizes there is nothing at hand to impart. The irritation comes from the adult gripping the blatant fact ignorance, ineptitude or laziness led to acceptance without questioning Why? prior to this exact moment.
Adults fill such guilt-laden holes in logic and reason with brilliance: Because I said so; Because that is how it is; Because it has always been this way.
Over
Children recognize when things have outlived their usefulness. They walk away from broken toys knowing the enjoyment is gone. Their grief is short-lived.
Adults hold onto things for sentimental reasons. Hoarded piles of items fallen into disrepair kept because a person long gone once possessed them, useless fandangle from the curios of generations before and souvenirs of a life lived by another. They will despair the loss of such things in a way the original owner would have found shameful.
Children are the same way about adult relationships. No more elation when one walks through the door. No more reaching for the person who does not come when called. No more wasting of valuable energy on the person who hasn’t the time for them.
Adults hold onto what should long since be discarded for myriad reasons, mostly the lack of desire to begin anew. With an exaggerated sense of investment, the mere longevity of the near-dead relationship makes adults cling tighter to what never should have been, even when what they have never truly was.
Try It
For one day, one hour or even a few moments, look at the conundrums through the small circles. Embrace the simplicity. Eschew the complexity. Enjoy what life offers.
Bearman
/ March 21, 2013The logical decision was that my wife take my name.
haha
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Red
/ March 21, 2013Did you ask her?
Alexandra Heep
/ March 21, 2013Am I in touch with my inner child? Haha. While sometimes I’d like to erase my childhood, I somehow don’t feel as if I’ve grown any older. I was born old inside and with many burdons, so I think I am just the right age now to go along with it!
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Red
/ March 21, 2013Oh, but Alex there is a large difference between Inner Child and childhood. From everything I have seen, they are almost mutually exclusive. 😉 xxx
Enchanted Seashells, Confessions of a Tugboat Captains Wife
/ March 21, 2013My son says I never grew up, so I think my inner child is very prominent. It’s pretty funny cos I think most of the time he acts like he’s 8 yrs old too, so I guess its contagious!
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Red
/ March 21, 2013It is. xxx
John McDevitt
/ March 21, 2013My inner child is the one who understands intuition and knows nothing of logic.
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Red
/ March 21, 2013Common sense rules.
El Guapo
/ March 21, 2013On the other hand, kids are dependent on adults to supply their needs. And adults can blow off responsibilities and ignore those who tell them they can’t!
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Red
/ March 21, 2013I think more adults need to do that very thing.
El Guapo
/ March 21, 2013Right now, I’m one of those adults Going to schedule a mental health day off very soon.
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Red
/ March 22, 2013That is a primeaux idea. I think of them as “in service” days. 😉
Binky
/ March 21, 2013Inner child? I have no idea what you’re alluding to.
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Red
/ March 22, 2013Sure you do… You know that feeling you get with a new rocket?
Binky
/ March 22, 2013Perhaps. . .
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Gail Thornton
/ March 21, 2013I’d like to shed my seriousness. What child is serious to a fault? They play! Luckily I am surrounded by people who play to their hearts’ content, adult as they are, and am learning a thing or three about fun.
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Red
/ March 22, 2013The joy of retirement!!! xxx
prenin
/ March 21, 2013And people wonder why I loved bringing up kids! 🙂
The great thing is that I could ‘be’ a child with them!
Love and hugs!
Prenin.
An overgrown kid and loving it! 🙂
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Red
/ March 22, 2013I love the laughs. Nothing is better than the laughter of a child.
Valentine Logar
/ March 22, 2013This was spectacular, caused me to hold my breath actually.
Inner child? I am uncertain I ever had one. Not ever. Although, the hanging on to things and people long past their useful shelf life, yeah that is a problem I believe I need to overcome.
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Red
/ March 22, 2013I believe you do. I know your inner child. She does not get to come to play often, but for certain she is in there. I believe the overcoming will help her immensely. I love you. xxx
Chatter Master
/ March 22, 2013I think adults are far more silly than children.
We prove this every day by running the world the way we do.
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Red
/ March 22, 2013Amen.