No matter how invincible we may want to believe we are, each and every one of us needs help.
Some of us need professional help: attorney, psychiatrist, refrigerator repairman.
Some of us need technical help. Some of us need information.
All of us need emotional help. No irony is lost knowing all of the professionals give us some measure of emotional help when they render the services for which we dearly pay. How?
Humility comes from asking for help. The act brings us to acknowledge we need those things which we cannot procure on our own. It is our surrender to the pack. Whatever greatness we offer in any field is balanced by a need which only others can fill. Rather than be mired in our need, we come to the place where we recognize the magnanimity of our fellows in their deliverance. It is a validation of our acceptance into society.
The asking is not the only portion of the equation. When assistance is rendered, gratitude is the emotional capital we use to pay for the gift of help.
Those who help us are not machines which operate on the fuel (money) we put into them. They take from our use of their services the satisfaction of being productive members of the society. When we say thank you we are acknowledging their societal contribution rather than merely the mechanical contribution of their occupation.
Do you put a piece of yourself (emotional capital) into your job? Do you recognize others for their contributions?
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John McDevitt
/ July 12, 2013Not only did I invest emotional capital in my job, I recognized and thanked others for their contributions. I got a lot of satisfaction from doing my job my way in spite of my boss who wanted things done his way. I told the truth and worked hard in my ‘clients’ (the ones who pay the bills) best interests while my boss wanted to look good. It took him two years but he finally mustered enough lame excuses to lay me off.
Justice was served within the year when he was forced to step down.
Notice that I referred to my boss as my boss and not as a leader. Leaders help those who depend on them and step away so they learn, grow and get the lion’s share of the credit.
I vote for leaders.
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Red
/ July 15, 2013I do as well. I prefer leaders any day. I made a point to attempt to work myself out of a job each time I was in a position to manage. Glad to see you, John.
Gail Thornton
/ July 12, 2013I do appreciate the help I get and try to let people know how valuable it is to me. I ask for help a lot, and used to feel guilty, but I no longer do because I help others in when they ask if I am able to help them. This post helped remind me that even people who appear to do the impossible often need help.
I really respect what you said, John, about leaders. Thank you for that insight.
Gail
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Red
/ July 15, 2013I do not ask often and frequently am told it is the reason I get little help when I do. I have yet to understand what this means.
xxx
Binky
/ July 12, 2013As an artist, if you don’t put your heart into your work, you might as well be making widgets. Your art has to be an expression of yourself, or at least a particular part of yourself.
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Bo Lumpkin
/ July 14, 2013What’s wrong with makin’ widgets. I put my heart into makin’ widgets too. As a matter of fact, I have been so busy lately makin’ and sellin’ widgets that I haven’t had time to be on the internet much.
The widget business is pretty good right now. 🙂
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Red
/ July 15, 2013You are the epitome of optimism. 🙂
Red
/ July 15, 2013Agreed. The obstacle I see to it is those with a j-o-b have no vested interest. Their performance inevitably suffers.
Prenin
/ July 12, 2013What job? 🙂
I’m insane so I need the aid of those I helped over the decades and I am grateful for it! 🙂
Even so I still help others until they crap on me like Doug and Tony did.
But that, as they say, is how the cookie crumbles… 🙁
Love and hugs!
Prenin.
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Red
/ July 15, 2013Being grateful is what counts.
tess kann
/ July 12, 2013Prenin! You took the words right out of my mouth. Now I am tongue-tied.
I’ll give it my best shot anyway. I believe in teamwork and only in the office. I’ve been out of the workforce for almost–never mind. Lots of what I do, I must do alone but when it takes a team, I have no problem calling on backup. Asking for help is not a weakness as I see it although when it comes to me, alone, not so easy.
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Red
/ July 15, 2013The more you do it, the easier it gets… like nearly everything else. xxx
Cat Forsley
/ July 13, 2013Hiya Red xxxx Have not been here in a gazillion years …….
But i gotta tell You 🙂
Number one
GO REDMUND GO XXXX
#2
Gratitude is a way o life ………….
isn’t it ? xxx I think so xxxx
The more we see the miracles in each nanosecond
= well – i think we come alive alive alive in a different way and life becomes LIGHT –
xxxx
🙂 🙂 🙂
we can carry it all Together xxx
🙂 ( i feel )
Love xo Cat
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Red
/ July 15, 2013Hey, stranger! Glad to see your happy self today. Much love <3 xxx
Cat Forsley
/ July 15, 2013wellllllllll hello 🙂 just as I was about to CRASH into my bed 🙂 xxxx literally – LOL – it’s hot out – sweating from my earlobes xxx 🙂 xxxx
Love to You x and congrats on all of REDMUND’S new books 🙂 wink wink 🙂 🙂 🙂 xxxx
Keep cool LADY RED XXXX
C xxxxxxx
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Red of M3
/ July 15, 2013Rest well, Mon Chat Doux. xxx It was showering here today, so it is humid! Thank you for the congrats, but you really should be congratulating Christy. 🙂 sss Have a beautiful morning, Cat. Much love, xxx <3
Cat Forsley
/ July 16, 2013heheheh 🙂 I have believe me 🙂
she knows IT ……….:)
Affinity with That beautiful heart of hers xxxx
Christy 🙂 Can you hear me across the country 🙂 lol
xxx
she knows it 🙂 xxxx
Her Birthday on the 31st ……..
i am doing a mega party day for her …………….
lots of funnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn xxxx
Congrats CB xxxx and alllll at REDMUDND
what a great co You have RED ,…. seriously amazing ….You’re making a ton of people HAPPY ………. That’s a Gift of YOURS – me thinky 🙂
love and GOOD MORNING
XO XO XO c
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C. Brown
/ July 13, 2013Great stuff Red.
Giving thanks and being thanked do a great deal to keep me fueled, or refuel me during my job. I like to think I am thankful to others but it never hurts to remind one’s self to do a check.
I don’t find it easy to ask for help. Though I will if I recognize I need it. It’s the recognizing that is difficult for me.
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Red
/ July 15, 2013What helps me to ask is to simply ask myself if someone could contribute something which I may not know. Normally, the answer is yes. xxx
C. Brown
/ July 16, 2013Good question to keep in the waiting room. 😉
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RLB Hartmann
/ July 13, 2013Teachers invest huge amounts of emotional currency in their work. That’s why they tend to burn out unless they’re getting some positive reinforcement. Writers and artists are also susceptible, but don’t deal with as many needy individuals face to face on a daily basis. That’s why when I quit teaching in the public schools, I picked up my writing and painting big time.
Red
/ July 15, 2013I am caught in the switches. I am all three. <3 xxx
RLB Hartmann
/ July 16, 2013So was I, and the juggling had to stop. Obviously the teaching went first! Painting has been on hold but never abandoned…
BuddhaKat
/ July 13, 2013When I need help, I have always found it difficult to ask, making a lot of presumptions about the responses I may or may not get.
In a way that has strengthened me, and those who know me know I don’t ask for help unless I REALLY need it.
As I become less able to handle chores, I remind myself how it is a favor to the one asked for help, as they too want to give of themselves and their strengths. Giving them an opportunity to help me is good for both of us!
Like Tess, now out of the job force for xx years, I remember how often one can be taken advantage of, if not aware of and protective of personal boundaries. That was the challenge when I worked. A lesson well learned and still effective in my personal relationships!
Great post, Red!
🙂
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Red
/ July 15, 2013I have always been a giver which led me to empower those in my charge. My dance space has always been particularly small. xxx
benzeknees
/ July 14, 2013Canadians (me in particular) are notorious for saying thank you for every little thing done for us.
Red
/ July 15, 2013That is a stereotype I would love to see spread worldwide. So very good to see you! xxx