Through the Looking Glass
Couples are perceived by their friends and family. These people form and perpetuate opinions of the couple based on the strengths and weaknesses they perceive. Ofttimes, perception is not reality.
Strong Man-Weak Woman
Considered to be the ideal relationship in many religions, the woman is subservient to her man in all manners. In many cases, this relationship epitomizes what society defines as “marriage” and enjoys great longevity. She submits to his opinion and wishes, regardless of or without her own opinion. His role is open to interpretation:
- Benevolent head of the relationship/household
Behind closed doors, this couple may be far more equal than they portray to the outside world, which may lend to the length of the relationship. On the other hand, sometimes they are far more inequitable than perceived, as in the case of abuse.
Weak Man-Strong Woman
Society frowns on this relationship regardless of the benefits accrued by the couple. Whether it takes the role of a sexual domination (in and out of the bedroom) or a pervasive ceding of his will to her demands (capricious or otherwise), the man is judged as spineless, whipped or some other equally derogatory term.
This couple is fueled by either a need to be opposite at home than is demanded throughout the work-a-day world or a genuine subservience of the man. Historically, these relationships last only as long as the woman continues to find satisfaction in the relationship.
Weak Man-Weak Woman
This couple is either terrifically balanced or horrifically abused. Neither emerges as a dominant force and both agree to follow the opinions and wills of outside sources.
In the cases where they follow people who genuinely choose well for them, they are a happy couple floating through life. When the PTB choose to manipulate them, they are prone to taking the position of dupe, often to the point of financial ruin.
This couple will likely be together forever. They lack the initiative to change their own circumstances and are willing to stay with what they have in favor of seeking out anything else. They are unlikely to feel as though they “settled”, instead feeling they have an equal mate.
Strong Man-Strong Woman
The power couple exudes strength to everyone in their path and wake. They function well as a team. Quick judgment leads to accepting the other’s idea as sound, prudent and/or advantageous. The power struggle is never publicly shown.
This couple runs risks. That behavior is as dangerous to their status as it is profitable. Often, what is unseen by the crowd are the internal struggles for dominance, the resentment of ceding power and unforgiveness.
Longevity is in this couple’s future as long as they remain overtly communicative and unite against external forces. When the conflict comes between them, the sheer force of wills can tear the couple apart.
(c) Ann Marie Dwyer 2011
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