This week’s poll was about your children…step, natural, adopted and foster. I was pleasantly surprised by what I discovered about my audience!
How many do you have?
When I tell people I have ten children, I get varied responses:
- *Gasp* How many? (Needs hearing tested.)
- How did you do it? (Endorsement for sexual education.)
- You don’t look like you could have that many!
Why? Because I have hair? Because my 5″ red, leather platform heels match? Because I am not wearing the soccer mom uniform? Because I do not drive a minivan? And what, exactly, should I look like? If you had an idea how much I am curbing the desire to…. But alas, I digress….
I am not the only Tigger!
Are you sitting down? Place both hands on the desk and lean forward just a bit. Ready?
10% of my survey takers have ten (10) children or more! I am officially not the only one trying to take over the world.
- 5% have 6-9 children.
- 40% have 3-5 children.
- 30% have 1-2 children.
- 15% have no children.
Whose are they?
In the age of the blended family, you routinely find some version of “yours, mine and ours”. The poll mirrored these facts.
- 11% answered “Mine”.
- 33% answered “His/Hers”.
- 56% answered “Ours”.
Monsters is very inn–ter-esting.
What I noticed in processing the answers was many who answered the poll came to a new marriage/relationship with children and had more children. It was the case with the family with 14 (Pick your jaw up. I did say fourteen.) children. They only started their marriage out with eight.
Like my own child…
I was very interested in the families who only answered “ours”. More than one-quarter of them included foster children without making the distinction until prompted. As far as they were concerned, all the children in the house were “ours”.
What I found most impressive were two families in particular who exemplified excellent parenting attitude. One family had three “ours” children. Why did they stand out? Sound too normal?
All three children were of different races from each other and the parents, who saw nothing beyond the innocence of a child who needed a home.
The other was a family with two “ours” children. Neither child had a life expectancy to majority.
What did they have in common? All five children were adopted without the prejudice associated with different children. Adoptive parents are so very special.
Can you accept or have you accepted children into your home? Do you feel any differently about them than your own children? If you could, would (will) you have more children?