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Diamonds in the Hourglass

Over the last week, a theme has developed, which by last Friday was destined to become a series. We looked into the vortex into which time slips when we are busy doing everything and nothing. We also looked at the emergencies of others which eat away not only our time, but also our (money, energy, faith in humanity). Lastly, we looked at the the tolerance we show to those who have only their own best interests at heart and the ways we circumvent our own (goals, lives, needs) to deliver.

A Long Block

When we look at the three topics of time, drama and transference, a pattern emerges: Priorities. Sounds like simple enough psychology, but in reality, the alternative perspective needed to make changes is not quite so simple. To get around the block, we have to answer some questions about ourselves. More importantly, we have to give honest answers, which may not be congruent with the self-image we have and project.

Your Appointment

You can be seen now.

Some of us have so much to do with and for other people we refer to meetings and appointments without thinking twice. But do we do it when we are talking about personal time? Why not?

We look at the things we do as an occupation and as participating in someone else’s occupation (doctor visits, attorney meetings, agent appointments) as important because money is changing hands at some level. One or both are being paid for the time being expended. This expense of resources makes us value the time and give it a measure of reverence.

Why is it we do not refer to the telephone call from our (parents, children, siblings) or the dinner date with (Mate, Quaint, BFF) as a meeting or appointment?

Answers from the peanut gallery:

Because it happens randomly. I don’t schedule those things.”

Sure you do. When you get off the telephone, you say, “I will talk to you later.” That is the same thing as calling someone’s secretary and scheduling a three o’clock. Your anniversary (or Quaint’s birthday) comes along on an appointed day, which is completely not random.

Because they aren’t that important.”

Aren’t they? Our social interactions are important to our psychological well-being. We need the camaraderie of our peers and the intimate interaction. We need the connections to others who think the way we do, are willing to listen to our differing view points and succumb to the need to correct us when we are utterly off the track.

Because they are routine.”

And going to work five days a week is not routine? Discounting the importance of something you do everyday is hard to swallow. Think of some of the things you do everyday and determine if they are important:

  • Take medicine
  • Brush teeth
  • Eat
  • Sleep
  • Hygeine

Some of these things you do more than once in a day. You do them to maintain your health. We can all agree health is important. Why then do we discount the things which keep our minds and (emotionally) hearts healthy?

Perspective

Time is valuable.

To get to the end of the street where we can turn the corner requires looking at the clock from a different perspective. We have been to the corner before, but instead of seeing a new path, we see the same old block. Repeating the same action expecting a different result is insanity.

For so long we have heard Benjamin Franklin’s quote Time is money, we have come to believe the time we have outside earning capacity is not valuable. It is time to challenge that thinking.

Time is valuable even without a monetary designation.” ~Red Dwyer

If time were not valuable, why do we spend it? Perchance, Red and Ben were thinking the same thing.

When we spoke of time in Wasting, we all admitted to letting it slip away. In order to waste something, we have to assign it a value. Time is a commodity with a limited quantity assigned to each of us. To make the most of it, we have to respect time as valuable. Time is only wasted when we spend it on unedifying, displeasing or futile endeavors.

Stop the Press

This is not an exercise to pressure us into doing anything. The shift in perspective is not to look back at the time we frittered away daydreaming as a cause for regret. Instead, this is a forward looking perspective which puts a better estimation of value on the things we choose to do.

I can pencil you in a month from Thursday.

It also is not a call to stuff our schedules so full of important things we lose track of ourselves. This perspective shift is going to challenge your idea of important.

As you are looking around the corner, think about the inherent value in the social interactions in your life. Think about the telephone calls and the emails, cards or letters and being in the presence of someone, whether you speak or not. All of these interactions have value, even if they are unpleasant experiences:

The call from the mother-in-law which drips with disapproval and smacks of I told you so…

…teaches us we can love Mate without loving the in laws and appreciate Mate’s accomplishment of not having grown into being its parent.

The email from the boss which you do not get until after you have had dinner which tells you to rework your best project because it was not what the client was looking for, exactly…

…teaches us not to commit workplace violence and helps us better listen to instructions.

The dinner date where Quaint finds terrific glee in recounting your latest faux pas…

…teaches us to laugh at ourselves and get over the sting of embarrassment in order to make better decisions.

Even if the knee-jerk reaction was the time could have been better spent, in the end, we learn something from all of our interactions.

Time-Suck

We listed some of the things which suck the sand out of the hourglass. Daydreaming had to be the most poignant of the time-sucks. Daydreaming has its value as well. We let go of all the preconceptions and irrational judgments, are free to explore the realm of our own possibilities and envision those things we most want to fill our time in three dimensions. If we were on the clock, the boss would call it brainstorming or spitballing.

To admit there are time-sucks in our lives, we have to make the judgment: Time is valuable. This concept will take us to the next segments of the Priorities Series. Stay tuned.

Can you judge all of your time valuable? Do you want to take the hourglass and squeeze it? How can you make every grain of sand a diamond?


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  1. Great post Red! Very thought provoking. 🙂

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    • Red

       /  March 21, 2012

      Thank you, Wendy. This one has been a long time coming. The next installments are going to point at the power of perspective.

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  2. Excellent post, Red, I was wondering about the marginal propensity to digress, dally, and diddle, but it’s all in perspective. Now I know why. I make each second, each grain of sand a diamond by appreciating it for what it IS, even if it digression, dalliance, or diddling! “:)
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  3. I have enjoyed reading this one Red and you have added some very interesting thoughts on time and how one uses it, indeed the ideas of changing certain aspects of a daily routine could be fun, well depending on what one decides to fill in the blanks with instead 😉 🙂

    I will be waiting to see what everyone else is offering on this fine posting, which should prove to be exciting or even wicked perhaps? 🙂

    I now understand about your new follow-up on comments and as it is just for replies on one’s own comments it is a good idea 🙂 Of course on WP it delivers everyone’s comments, which is a real pain in the inbox 🙁

    Have a lovely rest of evening Red 🙂

    Androgoth XXx

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    • Red

       /  March 21, 2012

      I am going out of my way to uncrowd the inboxes. I am hoping this does turn into a lovely discussion. I have big plans for the series following this one, so I am hoping it draws enough attention to get everyone ready for where we are going to go…but enough about that.

      Have a lovely morning, for it is time for a fresh pot, my dear friend. 😀
      Red.

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      • Yes I could do with a nice cup of fresh coffee and less of the biscuits too as I think I need to drop at least half a stone, well I am not getting any younger and my Peter Pan looks could just disappear overnight at this rate, of course you do know that I am joking don’t you? About the Peter Pan reference actually 😉 lol

        I do hope this one generates a lot of comments as you have obviously been working very hard on this new Space of yours and I like it here Red 🙂

        Androgoth XXx

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        • Red

           /  March 21, 2012

          Thank you, Andro. Enjoy a grand cuppa. And I am sure you can still fit in that tiny tunic;)
          Red.

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  4. Life needs to be done on purpose. Time is a problem for so many people. I actually wrote about this back in February- I will post the link. It is a great topic because so much can be said and learned from one another on it.
    http://wp.me/p1XHf9-q6
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    • I know that I have never replied to you on here before or even been on your Space but I will call into your blog and read this one out of pure interest, however for the now it is rather late here in the UK and so it will have to be later my friend 🙂

      Have a very pleasant rest of evening Derek 🙂

      Androgoth

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    • Red

       /  March 21, 2012

      Thanks for the link, Derek. I will check it out when I go on my next reading run. I am working on something else for tomorrow…Busy, busy!
      Red.

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  5. Time is the most important and valuable thing we have, yet we often don’t treat it that way.
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  6. Sometimes though I just literally want the sand to remain grains of sand. Slowly moving through the hourglass measuring time by the moments that are meaningful, sometimes I just want sandcastles.

    Time is money – to often
    I will call you back – then someone kicks my castle door down (dammit)

    Diamonds, yes those are important but sometimes, so are the grains of sand that gather together for sandcastles.
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    • Red

       /  March 21, 2012

      I like that. It is a lot like the daydreaming. Time spent wisely is enjoyed by the spender.

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  7. Yes, as the old quote goes: “You can spend time however you like, but you can only do it once.”

    Love and hugs!

    Prenin.
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    • Red

       /  March 22, 2012

      It is definitely a finite resource. One we should consider before we assign it to frivolous tasks. We must be careful what we consider frivolous.

      {HUGZ}
      Red.

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      • This one ended up in the junk folder too, but I fixed it! 🙂

        As for your comment? 🙂

        I agree.

        I spend too much time wasting time, but that has to end one day! 🙂

        Like the pools winner said: “I spent most of it on wine, women and fast living – the rest I frittered away…” 🙂

        Love and hugs!

        Prenin.
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  8. Wait a minute…
    I’m supposed to brush my teeth…
    every… day?!
    😉
    (Sorry, Red… I just couldn’t help myself. Probably ‘time’ for me to get a new joke!)
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