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    Red Dwyer’s Killing us Softly is a monumental book of heartfelt and practical advice for getting through and surviving the onslaught of cancer and death of a spouse.
    With the use of real time journal entries and blog posts, the author reaches out to readers in a unique way to guide them through all the emotions, responsibilities, and processes of being the caretaker of a marriage partner.
    Self-care and the care of the children are her primary focus, as she becomes the sole head of household and cup of love for her dying spouse and surviving family of nine children, three of whom are autistic.
    The book is supremely well-balanced in a way that has never been offered to the public before. The journal entries and blog posts draw us into her intimate life as she grieves privately yet exhibits her strength throughout and beyond the dying process. The focus is on helping the reader maneuver through the seemingly herculean feats of love and physical care which are assigned to the surviving spouse once the diagnosis of cancer is definite.
    From discussion on diagnosis and decisions to be made, through treatment and endgame, Red Dwyer holds our hand and shares with us her advice for not only surviving but also claiming our lives as we traverse this difficult and often hidden journey. She discusses the role of spirituality in the lives of the caretaking spouses, and the details of cancer treatment as a partner in the comfort of her loved one.
    Almost all of us are faced with treatment options at end of life, and many of us don’t face them until we are feeble and sick and not entirely in a place to make those decisions. While cancer has specific decisions to be made, Dwyer discusses the choices we all make when faced with extended treatment of a terminal illness or allowing nature to take its course.
    From diagnosis to hospice care, endgame and beyond, this author will be ultimately helpful to millions, who before this point have persevered and survived in silence.

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Where have you been?

When I opened the SIB today, I was greeted with more good than stupid. This is a post to let you know what the current situation is.

1. I am grateful for all the loving and worried messages.

I have been ill for the better part of the last week. It was not how I had planned on spending the working week of my vacation. Rather than answer you all individually, please accept my apology and this explanation.

2. Killing Us Softly is completely written.

It did not pass editorial muster about three weeks ago. Therefore, I had to begin from scratch, using the original manuscript merely as a crib sheet. For anyone who believes rewriting is easier, PFT. Having never been one to edit or rewrite my work, this was an horrific exercise in a book which I really did well to touch once, and nearly did not survive touching a second time.

Hopefully, this one will pass through the lens without more than technical issues. I am ready to lay it out and be finished.

3. First three done.

The first three of the Redmund Productions launch books are laid out. Initial edits are complete and draft proofs will be passed back to the authors by the end of the week. Here’s hoping that number expands exponentially over the week.

4. Out of touch for another week.

Since I was planning on being away from home and Internet connection this week, I will be away from the screen. I am reachable in all my normal ways, but my email response will be spotty at best. If you really need me, text or call. I have to catch up with all the work which did not get done last week.

5. Collaboration rocks.

The number of offers to collaborate are phenomenal. Yes, I am open to collaboration. Tell me more about what you would like to do. Also, let me know if you are willing to work with others who are equally excited. The video teams which could be built is an amazing pool of talent.

6. Beta readers at the ready.

If you volunteered to be a beta reader, pop me an email so I can send you a manuscript. Rules is Rules. No direct editing. All editorial comments welcome. When you email, let me know if you want Google Drive or Word. If you are so inclined (*giggles* like no one is *giggles again*), feel free to write a commentary when you return the manuscript. Do keep in mind, it should be book jacket ready and less than 250 words.

7. Thank you for being on time.

Thank you to everyone who had a 10SEP12 deadline. You all were punctual. If you have a 15 or 20SEP12 deadline, please do not submit early unless you contact me first.

8. Formatting.

While I appreciate all the work you went to to format your manuscript, stop it. You do not have the parameters for print, and the entire thing must be reformatted. No page numbers. Let me repeat that. No page numbers. Removing the page numbers you put in is a nightmare. Please, do not put page numbers in before you submit. If you have them now, please remove them.

9. Images.

The images which are submitted with your books must have a providence supplied with them. If you do not know what this means, keep reading. If you do, skip to the next number.

Photographs, art and images must be original (You took/made them.), must be commissioned and commercially released (You paid someone to take/make them and got a release to use them however you saw fit.) or must be readily identifiable as public domain (no trademarks, no wiki images or copyright must be expired).

10. I hope you are having a fabulous week.


How was your week whilst I was away? Wow! You had so much to talk about! Have you been enjoying the guest posts? Would anyone like to see an M3 feature where there is a guest post once a week?

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  1. Glad you’re feeling better hun! :)

    Sorry I didn’t know you were ill, but that’s life in the blog sphere! :(

    Take good care of yourself my lovely friend! :)

    Love and huge hugs! :)

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    • I am taking good care of myself. I am up from a nap to check on some of my NYC friends who may have had a rough day today. {HUGZ} Red.

  2. I see you are slowing down a little bit, that’s good.
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  3. Wow, I’m sorry you were sick, Red. But you didn’t miss a SINGLE beat posting, as far as I can tell. You’re amazing!!

    I read the writer highlight interview today – really enjoyed that one.

    Your successes are mounting. You’re progressing amazingly with this venture. Huge congrats :)
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    • I figures moments after you leave this comment, M3 crashes. Hackers bite. <3 More later, promise ;)

  4. Ditto and ditto and ditto…

    so sorry about the stressful rewrite!!

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    • With the accusation which came in the SEP, I know. This one is very emotional, both for me and the reader. The subject matter is one of those things where there are not many people willing to talk about it, much less write about it.

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