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    Red Dwyer’s Killing us Softly is a monumental book of heartfelt and practical advice for getting through and surviving the onslaught of cancer and death of a spouse.
    With the use of real time journal entries and blog posts, the author reaches out to readers in a unique way to guide them through all the emotions, responsibilities, and processes of being the caretaker of a marriage partner.
    Self-care and the care of the children are her primary focus, as she becomes the sole head of household and cup of love for her dying spouse and surviving family of nine children, three of whom are autistic.
    The book is supremely well-balanced in a way that has never been offered to the public before. The journal entries and blog posts draw us into her intimate life as she grieves privately yet exhibits her strength throughout and beyond the dying process. The focus is on helping the reader maneuver through the seemingly herculean feats of love and physical care which are assigned to the surviving spouse once the diagnosis of cancer is definite.
    From discussion on diagnosis and decisions to be made, through treatment and endgame, Red Dwyer holds our hand and shares with us her advice for not only surviving but also claiming our lives as we traverse this difficult and often hidden journey. She discusses the role of spirituality in the lives of the caretaking spouses, and the details of cancer treatment as a partner in the comfort of her loved one.
    Almost all of us are faced with treatment options at end of life, and many of us don’t face them until we are feeble and sick and not entirely in a place to make those decisions. While cancer has specific decisions to be made, Dwyer discusses the choices we all make when faced with extended treatment of a terminal illness or allowing nature to take its course.
    From diagnosis to hospice care, endgame and beyond, this author will be ultimately helpful to millions, who before this point have persevered and survived in silence.

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Perfect Fit

MantraMy sister has delved into what we choose to wear…especially when it may not fit. It reminded me of something I wrote when it was really still cold, and we were all bundled in snuggly sweaters and long pants with fluffy socks in boots. The time has come to shed all of that.

We have talked about the fun house mirror, but in this poem, the mirror tells the truth. What does the mirror say to you when you look into it? What is it you really see?

A Fresh Angle

While many of the poems on M3 come from Mantra’s perspective, much like Aging, this one comes from somewhere entirely different. Let’s take a stroll past someone else’s mirror…an honest stroll.

In the end, no matter what we see in the mirror, we can always find something which is appropriate to make our body styles look their best. Yes, even in swimwear.

The Perfect Suit

Inside the frame is a flat image,
But it is not what the world sees.
The curves and lines are wrong.

Curves appeared where lines once were.
The lines all go the other way.
When did the hair get so long?

Waist has expanded.
Arms and legs grew thick.
Crow’s feet and frown lines.
Reflection a trick?

Admirers and friends all say
There’s nothing wrong they can see.
“Perfect as you are,” say Aunt.

“Beautiful from the inside out.”
Mom cannot be trusted.
Not reassured. Not confident.

Want to run away,
But it is always here.
Cannot shed the shell,
Escape from the fear.

Then, through the glass it’s spied.
“Money’s no object!” is cried.
The fit is perfectly fine.
Shape exquisitely divine.
Color tenderly sublime.
Perfect suit for summertime.

(c) Ann Marie Dwyer


Are you already shopping for or have you already bought the perfect swim suit for this season? How much do you swim? Do you think swim suits have gotten too small? (Feel free to comment on both bikini and Speedo.) What swim suit style do you wish would disappear?

(c) Ann Marie Dwyer 2012
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  1. unless it is a sausage casing .. or a mummu dammit
    valentinelogar recently posted..Zaftig in a MirrorMy Profile

    • Red

       /  May 10, 2012

      I have never met anyone who looked like anything other than a tent in a muumuu. I do not even think sausage looks good in sausage casing.

  2. I think “waist” is a human concept.
    Binky recently posted..Poor SoulsMy Profile

  3. I hate swimsuit season. I hate finding one that fits. And I hate seeing people who didn’t take the time to find one that fits.
    muddledmom recently posted..The Time Cover: An Example of Why I Hate the Mommy WarsMy Profile

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      Seeing all the ones which do not fit far outweighs the pain of finding one which fits…You may want to read my sister’s post!

  4. Since I have an extra 10-15 lbs I’d love to shed, I have not eagerly shopped for a new suit! However, I don’t swim as often as I’d like to, but I love it and always have! :)
    LScott recently posted..A Tribute to Mom’s ♥My Profile

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      That is a two-way win-win street! More swimming means less pounds. Swimming is still the absolute best exercise for the human body.

  5. Barb

     /  May 11, 2012

    I love the line… The curves go the other way.

  6. Arrrgh!!! LoL!!!

    I am STILL overweight!!!

    My underwear mostly no longer fits and keeps heading south so I bought six new pairs and now I look at the mirror and I look FAT!!!

    My target weight is 98Kg – 215Lbs give or take – but I weigh 105.5Kg – 232.1Lbs so I have a long way to go! :)


    Not this year… :)

    Love and hugs!


    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      But you are making progress, which is what counts. I know gobs of people who are at a fit weight who do not like the look of the shape in the mirror. You need to read my comment to Lauren! {HUGZ} Red.

  7. Swimsuits were banished from my vocabulary—can’t remember when. UGH: The curves and lines are wrong.

    That MIRROR is the problem but your verse is true.
    Tess Kann recently posted..ANTIBIOTIC for WordPress glitch!My Profile

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      LOL! I was shopping for suits a while ago. There are so many really pretty ones which hide so much. I think the tankini has to be one of the better inventions in the swimsuit line.

  8. I used to but don’t swin that much now…
    As for the body..gravity is a …..
    every thing has gone hey wire..I think my body loves south,east and west too much
    Soma Mukherjee recently posted..Ma-माँMy Profile

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      LOL! I think you have read one of the original SEP’s! We have already confirmed, gravity increases as we age.

  9. I had to come back and read this again. I just love it. However, it’s other people who age, not me. Right?
    Barb recently posted..Where Is the CookBook?My Profile

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      Oh, absolutely! You and I both are in that category of forever youthful. <3

  10. Well I was looking for the photograph that compliments this wonderful poem but it’s okay, maybe next time? :) ;)

    Never mind about the mirror just strip off and get into your most deliciously favoured bikini :)

    Oh yes and have
    lots of fun at the pool ;)

    Androgoth XXx

    • Red

       /  May 12, 2012

      When I was looking for swimsuits for this year, I nearly downloaded one for this post. Just have to wait until we have the pool set in order to see those sorts of photographs ;)


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