If you have been around here for more than a week, you know M3 is out to pick your brain. This week was no different. Well, that is not entirely true. What was picked from your brain was utterly different from the brain pickings from elsewhere. If you are still holding onto your brain, get to the bottom and spill in the comments.
The burning question:
What first attracted you to Mate?”
You had the option to choose up to five answers and to supply your own answer. The survey participants in real life chose very different answers than the M3 Readers.
Our group this time ranged in age from 14 to 67 (although the upper limit is not fast). Every marital status was represented: Never married, partnered, married, divorced, remarried, widowed. Both sexes were well represented, as were ethnic groups and nationalities. For the first time, the only continent not represented was Antarctica.
(If anyone knows a resident of Antarctica, please pass along the link to M3…idly wonders about sat-com signal in snow and sub-zero temperature.)
Bringing up Last Place
At a lonely little 1%, kindness came in last place. The survey takers considered kindness something integral to Mate’s character, but different from generosity or philanthropy.
Both of these write-in answers were written by 2% of the audience. Both terms were mentioned by the people who answered with either loyalty or dependability first.
Not a lot of the pollsters thought parenting was an attractant. Only 2% were drawn in by Mate’s ability to parent.
Before you think this 2% is odd, think about the question again. While the answers varied slightly, they were about smell. Cologne, perfume and pheromones…Mate needs to smell good.
No, your guess that a painted face is what attracted poll takers to Mate is completely wrong. 3% of those polled thought going without makeup was very attractive. One pollster even went so far as to include her need to be able to camp without makeup.
Another 3% were attracted to Mate’s ability to be a friend. Friendship is the foundation for a great relationship.
Now, they were not attracted to a blonde Mate. 4% of the audience was absolutely clueless what attracted them to Mate. More than a few cited, “We just clicked.”
Since work ethic includes such characteristics as integrity, dedication and honesty, it is not hard to believe 6% of those polled were attracted to Mate’s work ethic. Most saw it as a sign of stability.
6% of the group saw ambition as an attractive quality in Mate. Some stated it meant boring was not going to be a descriptor for the relationship.
Mate’s charity was attractive to 6% of the polling group. One person said, “It let’s me know how [Mate] will treat me when I am old.”
Some of the audience admitted openly sex was one of the original attractants. 7% of the group thought the ability to be naughty was fun, creative, inventive, imaginative and sexy. Not all thought being naughty was about sex. Some thought it was more about being adventurous and knowing it was okay to break the rules now and then.
In a first for an M3 poll, this choice was a complete divergence. Not one member of the M3 online audience chose money as a reason Mate was initially attractive. IRL, people admitted they found Mate’s money attractive. Total, those attracted to Mate’s money was 7% of the survey pool.
Most of the survey group considered this choice to include common sense. 8% of the pollsters were attracted to Mate’s ability to figure it out and make good choices.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it is a strong attractant. 10% of survey takers were attracted to Mate’s physical appearance. More M3 Readers admitted this than those in real life.
Laughter is good medicine, but it is also very attractive when nothing ails you. 15% of those surveyed were attracted to Mate’s sense of humor. Just reinforces the adage: A woman loves a man who can make her laugh…and vice versa.
The Most Attractive Quality
18% of the group was first attracted to Mate’s ability to hold an intelligent conversation. Intelligence was an indicator of other attractive qualities, such as complementary knowledge, ability to be self-sufficient, “anti-neediness”, ability to support intellectually, upward mobility and ability to be levelheaded in a crisis.
Always with the Questions…
If you answered in the poll, comment with the one quality which survived the courtship to become the most attractive attribute of Mate. If you missed the poll, give your top three of Mate’s attractants.
Everyone take a moment to answer the new poll. You may choose as many as are applicable. If you have not already, read the Saturday Evening Post to see if your choice is named on the relaxation tricks list.
(c) Ann Marie Dwyer
Information about polls and poll results are listed in The Office. Page linked on top bar of the M3 blog.
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