Saturday Evening Post

Extra Large Coffee CupEver been tired from doing nothing? What is it like? Grab a cuppa and snuggle into a rocker. The fans are blowing full tilt. Clyde has a quick one for you. Let’s talk.


I know the majority of the M3 Readers have taken a moment to stop by the Green Room and leave a link to their active blogs. Oh, my word! If you have not been to the Alumni Club recently, you are missing out on more than 15 new blogs.

If you are a newbie to M3 and the Green Room, here’s the skinny. Once ten people jump from M3 to your place, you get promoted to the Alumni Club. Since TGR is the official diving board around here, it is pretty commonplace for guys and dolls to find you there.

This is your official invitation: If your link is not already in the Green Room, make your way there after you finish here.


M3's logo stands for engagement.

Did you miss M3 yesterday? It was an official reader day. In other words, a day to go through the recent posts or one of the many stops on the menu bars. Flash was hopping yesterday. Thank you to everyone who stopped by to see if I still had a pulse.

Yesterday’s post was preempted in favor of becoming part of a series. It has nothing whatsoever to do with what we talked about on Tuesday, but everything to do with what we are going to be talking about in December. No more hints.


Apparently, a bunch of you missed these nearly as much as I have. There are some fabulous ones to come.

You are so creative!!! Some of the things you named them were striking, funny and dead on. Snakes? Really? If you have not named them, pop over and give it a whirl.

My names for them were:

Wordless Wednesday

  1. Blink. Blink. What?
  2. Radar on the Blink
  3. Hell’s Escalator
  4. Spiral Grater
  5. Wadded Fractal

Your favorite from this bunch was #2.

Wordless (after) Wednesday

  1. Hoo You Lookin’ At?
  2. Fire Sail
  3. Emperial Bow
  4. Pansy in Waiting
  5. Spring Vortex

Your favorite here was #3.

I have been cooking up some different fractal art. Consider it simmering on the back burner.

Right Turn, Clyde!

Have you ever spent time alone? What did you do with it? Clyde is chewing on something and only spitting out the little pieces. Here’s what we have so far.

Alone: Separated from others. Isolated.

Makes you wonder if the guy who puts the numbers in the definitions was off the day this one hit the dictionary. That should not be in one definition because separated from others and isolated do not always go hand-in-hand.

number 1Case #1

Mate has been married for 34 years. Spouse goes to work everyday. Spouse comes home, eats dinner, reclines and falls asleep in the chair. Mate wakes Spouse to go to bed. Perfunctory kiss goodnight averages about 45%. Mate is alone.

number 2Case #2

Parent raises a houseful of children. When the shoe is down to just a few children, Parent realizes the last adult conversation which did not include a recommendation for diaper cream, teenage-caused-grey-hair-making or grade school was prior to the birth of the middle one. Parent is alone.

number 3Case #3

Social Media Butterfly has 1,821 Facebook friends; 3,286 in circles; 6,492 Twitter followers and fourteen cats. SMB’s telephone has only made outgoing calls in the last three months. The last time SMB was dressed in anything fancier than matching pajamas was a trip to the doctor for a yearly examination, where the receptionist wondered if SMB had been around humans since the turn of the century. SMB is alone.

Being surrounded by bodies does not preclude being alone. Proximity is not the equivalent of connection.

Enter Ape

Right turn, Clyde.

Right turn, Clyde.

Someone who is blind will feel alone when put with someone who is deaf because between them they have no common communication. Are you the one who can see the other person in the room but cannot understand why they do not look your way when you sign? Or are you the person who can hear the other one move but cannot understand why they do not do not answer?

Ideologically, we make excuses. The shortcomings and handicaps of others become our parking validation: We were present. We can say we did our part by being the warm body. (Incidentally, were we sharing body heat? Otherwise, no dice.)

If you have ever been the blind or the deaf person, you may have considered the other to be (vain, self-righteous, an azzhat). You were doing your part to communicate without reciprocity. This person stood before you expecting you to come to them on their terms. Fancy that. So do you.

Tomato, Tomato

None of us wants to be alone, isolated from those we are close enough to touch, see, hear. Therein lies the common ground which transcends the shortcomings and handicaps. Why not stand on it?

It is enough to make an ape wonder.


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Are you blind or deaf? How do we change our communication to stop being alone in the proximity of the ones we want closer?

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  1. I am struggling with isolation / alone right now. It is a difficult concept to define to others. This is especially true when significant others do not have the same need for people in their life.

    What am I? Blind, deaf or dumb? I suspect all three at times.

    • I think we are willing to sacrifice only to the degree we believe SO should pick up the slack or understand our needs for interaction. In some cases, we give SO too much credit for knowing what we need. xxx


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