Quick! Grab a scribble stick and a scrap of paper. Name three things you do well. No, now. Mark down three things you really do well. Any three things. Got your list? Good. Let’s talk about confidence.
It is easy to be confident about things we know we know how to do well. Chances are good along the way we encountered some of the reactions which encourage confidence.
- Questions of Methodology
- Requests to Repeat
- Sustained Success
Check Them Off
What made you think of the three things on your list?
- You have done them before, so you know you can do them well. (Success)
- An observer told you you did well. (Validation)
- Someone thanked you for the good job you did. (Praise)
- One who could not do it as well asked you your secrets. (Questions of Methodology)
- Someone asked you to do it again. (Request to Repeat)
- You did it well, again. (Sustained Success)
Even if you did not get all six, you got at least three. The four in the middle are external confidence boosters. We give other people the power to build and tear down our self confidence. Do note: The list begins and ends with you.
Attitude Determines Altitude.
How you view an outcome helps determine if you will succeed. If you are determined you will be a failure, you will. You foresee your mistakes and make them any way, or you intentionally fail.
When you are unsure, you will inadvertently make mistakes. Explanation: You are worrying, which diverts your attention from the task enough to cause mistakes.
When you are confident you will succeed, even a non-perfect result is viewed as a success. Confidence does not always translate into perfect success. Confidence will allow you to see the good portions of the job and deem them more valuable than the mistakes. It also gives you wide berth to learn from the mistakes.
Success reinforces confidence.
It Starts With You.
M3 asked you if you had ever told someone you believed in them. Everyone who answered said they had. It is easy to see the potential in others. Telling them you see it boosts their confidence.
Now for the big question:
When was the last time you believed in yourself?
Write your answer on the bottom of your list. Let’s grade our answers according to the following scale:
Can you do better?
If you did not score over 100 points, you can boost your own confidence. If you did not have three things on your list, think about the everyday things in your schedule you do well. Talk to Quaint. Ask what Quaint thinks you do well.
If you have not told yourself you believe you can do something or you believe in yourself, boost your confidence by doing one or more of the following:
- Record on webcam: “I believe I can do anything well.”
- Put up a note with the words I believe in myself.
- On the refrigerator
- On the bathroom mirror
- On your monitor
- In your wallet
- On your sun visor
- As a bookmark in your current book
- In your closet
- On the bathroom scale
- Write a blog post about believing in yourself.
- Write a journal/diary entry about increasing your confidence.
- Write a comment to this post saying…
I BELIEVE IN MYSELF!
Can you boost your own confidence? Tell me something you do well. Let me know you believe in yourself!
(c) Ann Marie Dwyer 2012
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