The world of (un)social media is filled with cats. This post is filled with not cats. More appropriately, it is filled with stopping being Schrödinger’s cat. To the science and math phobes in the audience, this is not a post about quantum theory and superposition, exactly.
Have you ever wanted to be something? We are not going to talk about education and training and employment. We are going to talk about being something for someone.
From the people surveyed for this post, most all would prefer not to be caught in the Friend Zone. Those are the people in your social circle who you would connect to on a deeper or more physical level were it not for the fact you are friends. Being in the Friend Zone actually inhibits your ability to get into a deeper, more physical relationship merely by looking like a deeper relationship to the average onlooker, who may well want a deeper, more physical relationship.
The FWB Zone is equally as prohibitive. Most friends with benefits are looking for someone (else) with whom to start the deep, meaningful relationship replete with friendship, finishing one another’s sentences and double digit anniversaries. Far too often, the FWB meets perfect Mate, who is aghast at the stop gap.
No one wants to actively repel someone who may be the perfect Mate. Why do we do it?
Sharp Stick in the Eye
The Friend Zone and FWB are both better than nothing. We choose them above the obviously lesser alternative of spending time with our cats. The choice is often becoming Schrödinger’s cat: We have what we need in the moment while still needing what we do not have.
Okay, so maybe we are talking about superposition. We are getting our immediate needs met by friends or FWB (alive), while still not getting what we truly need in terms of long lasting relationships (dead). Meow.
We were just following the rules, right?
When we look closely, we are all those things. Why do we believe there is not someone else like us? For that matter, most everyone is those things on at least some level. No, we cannot possibly find viable relationships with every Tom, Dick or Sherry who comes along. Much more goes into compatibility than merely finding a person with the correct genitalia; however, those genitals do not make Mate unable to be all four of the people you seek. After all, do yours?
Have you ever considered finding a Mate who was you in another body? What makes us believe we are the only
Tigger Schrödinger’s cat?
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