Sex Is Overrated.

The block button is the only social media button more powerful than the share button. I have to flip a coin to see which one I prefer on any given day. This week held precisely no exceptions.

Our Friday nights have normally been spent in my inbox, so I shall stay true to form, at least for a few. But I will let you in on some of the fun I can have on social media, as well.

Sex is overrated.”

Indiana Route Marker

We all know sex sells, but I have to admit Let’s Talk About Sex was not the post I thought would fly off the charts, nor rally so stinking many people to carrying pitchforks and torches. The most colorful one in my social media inbox was a little lady (guessing  and giving a bunch of latitude here) from Indiana. It started innocently enough…You know, dear, …

She did not take four words to get to the cataclysm. In the barrage of insults, I pictured a 3’11” cotton-top wagging a bony finger toward my nose with the other hand clenched on her hip. One quote stuck out more than all the others…Sex is overrated. Anyone want to put that to a poll?

You are a racist Republican bigot.”

Republican Party (United States)

Remind me to never move to Nevada. The desert must fry the brain. Enter Old Sparky. On the subject of last meals, I apparently turned someone’s stomach.

One particularly caustic email came from a man(?) who signed his moniker as Truth from the libral write. Before I question the possibilities of his October birth, dyslexia and dementia, let me give you a few gems from this scathing message:

  • Only racists supports the death penalty.
  • You republicans are all alike. Why not just starve them to daeth?
  • Bigots are the reason we even have a [expletives (plural) deleted] death row you moron.

I ran out of fingers trying to list all the things wrong with just those three statements.

Party girls are a bad influence.”

Can I have a Scarlet A as well? Mona (if she signed her real name this time) was completely bent over After Baby BFF. Once again, I am the cause of all which is “wrong with society today”. Some of the list of should’s and should not’s  I got were:

Prostitute in Tijuana, Mexico.
  • (Should) Keep my dress down. Hanging out with my BFF would inevitably lead to more children.
  • (Should not) Be hanging out with party girls. After all, they are a bad influence and probably why I got pregnant.
  • (Should) Just stay home and take care of that Gift From GOD. And to think I missed the angelic FedEx guy while I was at the hospital.
  • (Should not) Pawn that beautiful child off on my poor husband. (Deep breath. Count to 10.)

Just to clear the air, Mona:

  • I am wearing pants (for once).
  • I cannot class my girlfriends as party girls. And sex causes pregnancy.
  • I do not have a bundle of joy at home. My grandson lives with his mother, my angel.
  • I am currently not married, getting there next year, but not yet.

You have no taste what so ever.”

I revealed the song stuck in my head and really, seriously wish this emailer had actually L.I.S.T.E.N.E.D. to the song…and followed its advice.

This particular message remained completely anonymous, but took the time to object to each (EACH) of the 36 questions. Although the perfect revenge would be posting them all, let me show you which answers of mine were most hated:

Most Evil
  • 6. You don’t need anything in hell and you cannot take it with you.
  • 7. Just join an internet dating site and quit advertizing on a blog for [expletive deleted]’s sake.
  • 8. You can’t have ex’s. Nobody would put up with your [expletives deleted] long enough to get together.
  • 18. Everything about you is EVIL! [exclamation points deleted]
  • 26. [Expletive deleted] drug addict.
  • 36. You aren’t important in my life.

Wow! I would never have guessed with that level of objection.

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And there you have the top jewels from this week. Any retorts?

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Coping With The Stranger In Our Midst

Adding a new baby to the family affects a child in many different ways. Some react with jealousy, some become the helper role, still others want to be the town crier. You need a way to help them cope.

So how do you know what to say?”

English: Chester Cross The Town Crier at Chest...

Understanding what your child understands about the business of babies is how to determine exactly how to help the adjust to the stranger in their midst.

Babies Meeting Babies

Toddlers’ curiosity makes them easy to prepare and difficult to predict, especially since toddlers aren’t the most patient creatures. Engaging toddler in the preparation and care for baby is essential for smooth transition from being the baby to being the big sister or brother.

This is a good habit-breaking time as well, since now it is time for baby to have blankie or binky.

Off to School

Elementary school-aged children better understand the concept of the baby actually being a person, which can lead to jealousy. If this child has been the baby for four or more years, take particular care to show that the new baby is not replacing her. Plan:

  • Special one-on-one time with you, Mate, special adults.
  • Frequent updates on baby baking.
  • Age appropriate explanations of mom’s changing body.
  • Reassurance of status in the family hierarchy.

Again, allowing this child more responsibility toward care for the infant will reinforce that she is a very valued member of the family.

Tween

Italian teenager wearing sunglasses

The 10-12 year old may be the most difficult to engage in new baby activity. His general tendency to be absorbed by his hobbies and friends will render him almost inconvenienced by his parent’s new addition. With the identity malaise of being a tween, he will need a little extra attention, especially just after delivery.

As you plan your away-from-baby time, make sure to make a date with your tween to go do his favorite activity. This one-on-one time will be essential for maintaining harmony and reinforcing that he is great the way he is.

The Big Stranger

Teenagers: This breed of pseudo-adult will either be thrilled or be totally devastated, likely on a cyclical basis throughout the baby’s first three years. Take the happy days as opportunity to enjoy your children.

Take the down days to discuss some of the emotional turmoil. You just might find the emotional roller coaster may not be associated with new baby at all.

You know how this happens…”

Adult children may be startled at the entire idea of a new sibling. Don’t be surprised if the initial news is met with any of these:

  • Sarcasm about the cause of pregnancy.
  • Humor about your age.
  • Questions about your understanding of birth control.
  • Anger coupled with frustration.

Engage your adult child in the issues of parenting, especially if you are not yet a grandparent. This could be a fantastic on-the-job-training your older child may need to become a terrific parent himself.

It all works out

Babies are a family event. Let everyone partake in the joy of holding a little one and the agony of a diaper change!

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How did you tell your children about the new addition? Have you planned what you are going to say?

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Musician Spotlight: Monti Rock

The M3 Coffee Shoppe is thumping with Monti Rock! Pioneer of two new genres of music, Monti Rock gave M3 the inside scoop, with quite a few laughs, into his world of bass and his album Koncepts.

M3: Let’s start with an introduction for the M3 Readers.

MR: I am Monti Rock, The Ultimate Bass Technician, a 38-year-old electronic musician currently residing in Tacoma, Washington and the creator of the Hindi Bass and Arkade sub-genre.

M3: How did you start in the industry?

MR: Actually I didn’t start in the industry… music had been in my life since I was young.  At the time, it was hard to get into if you didn’t know who to go to.  Thank goodness time has changed.

M3: Should the M3 Readers care about your day job?

MR: Yeah, because if I don’t have a day job, I wouldn’t be able to make the album… unless I wire a cardboard box for electricity when I’m homeless! BWAHAHAHA!

M3: Got some advice you would tell a newbie?

MR: Yeah, loads… Even though technology has made things a lot simpler… you still need to practice, practice and practice.  I seriously started learning on my own in 1996.  This doesn’t happen overnight.

M3: Why do you go on hiatus?

MR: Usually because of job issues… or when I come across a creative brick wall. That’s usually a sign to chill out a bit.

M3: Is this work close to your heart?

MR: To be honest…naw. To be blunt… this is one of the only things I have.  I don’t have much, and I’ve been through a lot over the past few years, and this is one of a few outlets I can feel I can express myself.

M3: What makes Koncepts different from the rest of the pack?

MR: Not just the sound, but I wanted to show Bass music isn’t about brainless lyrics and the similar type beats. I want the world to know that Bass music–not just Miami Bass— could be when mixed with Jazz and other established genres, while I introduce some to Jungle.  More importantly, I don’t like to sound like anybody else, I try to be as different as I can get.

M3: How do you feel like your colleagues in the Bass industry?

MR: That’s a good question. That depends on the individual and the genre.  In the Bass Music Clique–or rather Miami Bass– with the exception of a couple of people, I have no feelings for them.  In the more general Electronic Music scene, I think a lot of them are pretty cool and helpful.  But even THEN…

M3: Any bone to pick with the industry?

MR: Actually, more with the major record labels, which are now just going to be two mega groups. Seriously.  Just die… the old way of business is dead.

M3: What can M3 Readers look forward to from Monti Rock?

MR: I’m working on my second album, Leaving Basslands: The Journey Continues, and also a special EP called Hindi Boooom, highlighting a subgenre I created: Hindi Bass

M3: In 15 words or less, why should M3 Readers buy your album?

MR: I bring Bass music and now Jungle in a totally different way than the norm.

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Dear M3 Readers,

Take a scroll through Monti Rock’s album and tracks to experience new music. Stop by the Basslands’ page and make yourself at home getting the latest news. UK fans can visit Track It Down for Monti Rock’s signature brand music.

Thank you for spending some time with the M3 Coffee Shoppe’s founding musician.

Red.
M3

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Not The Only Tigger

This week’s poll was about your children…step, natural, adopted and foster. I was pleasantly surprised by what I discovered about my audience!

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We Are Having Puppies.

One of the questions I dreaded the most when I was pregnant, especially with the last three, was “What are you having?”

Being of ornery nature, my answer was always an upbeat, bright:

Puppies, if I am lucky!”

English: Sable Puppies

I am decorating in yellow.

Many of the benefits of knowing the sex of your child before its birth are intangible, yet very valuable. They go much deeper than saving the money wasted on decorating a room or buying a wardrobe in a socially unacceptable color. (My sons wore pink pajamas. Sue me.)

S.L.E.E.P.

Sleeping baby

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The last trimester is plagued with little or no sleep. Obstetricians advise: If you speak and/or sing to your baby in-utero at the appointed hour, it builds a soothing bond which encourages your newborn to sleep longer, sooner and by the sound of your voice at bedtime.

Smarts

If you know the sex of your child, you can call her by her name. How surprised will your pediatrician be when your 4-month-old acknowledges the calling of his name?

Understanding

Knowing the sex of your child before its birth is an emotional benefit to the children. Older siblings can better understand the concept of little brother or sister than they do “the new baby”.

English: A young girl kisses a baby on the cheek.

Letting the fetus have its identity early can prevent the onset of jealousy over the older child no longer being the baby. Allowing the older siblings to help set up the nursery better defines the Big Brother or Big Sister role. This nurturing instinct is the basis for a stronger sibling relationship.

Get Over It

If you are the parent who wants a particular sex of child, knowing the sex before birth will ease your anxiety. Since sex can be determined before the half-way point, parents can have ample time for counseling toward their apprehensions about their child, be they the sex or otherwise.

Emotional Well-Being

This has the marked benefit for the child: Being born to well-adjusted parents, who are happy to finally have their bundle of joy.

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Did you find out the sex of your baby before it was born? Why or why not?

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